What woman doesn’t know she should value herself?
We all know we should love, care for, and respect ourselves.
The problem isn’t lack of knowledge—it’s that many times we don’t know how to do it.
We say we value ourselves, but our actions often say the opposite.
We go from one toxic relationship to another, justifying the unjustifiable because we’re afraid of being alone.
We want to go down one more size, even though we’re already fine.
We change our look thinking something inside will magically fix itself: we cut our hair, then miss the length; we get extensions to replace what we removed.
We wash our hair because it’s greasy, then put oil on it because it’s dry.
We put on foundation to cover our natural skin tone, then blush so we don’t look pale and can “bring back” the natural look.
We straighten our hair to make it sleek… then curl it so it has volume.
We say we want to be natural but use filters.
We say we accept ourselves but constantly compare.
We say we love ourselves but speak harshly to our reflection in the mirror.
Sometimes it even feels like a joke.
We tirelessly seek acceptance from everyone, thinking that fixing ourselves up a little more will give us more value.
But it doesn’t work that way: our value doesn’t come from people, circumstances, possessions, or physical appearance.
This is where the deeper truth comes in: valuing yourself is a spiritual process.
Knowing that we should value ourselves isn’t enough.
We need God to reveal to our hearts the true worth we have as women.
It doesn’t matter how many times others tell us we’re valuable—if we don’t feel it from within, we’ll continue living in contradiction.
Our worth comes from something that was paid at a great price: our soul.
The soul is the most valuable thing we can have.
Yet we spend so much time trying to find our value outside of ourselves that we fall into an endless cycle.
Our value is found within, and that’s where we must invest tirelessly, maintaining a constant relationship with God.
“Do not let your beauty be external—braided hair, gold jewelry, or fine clothes—but let it be the inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.”
— 1 Peter 3:3–4
